Wondering Why You Feel Such Strong Emotions When in Conflict?
Conflict evokes strong emotions. Here are some of the emotions and feelings clients tell me they experience in conflict: “I don’t feel safe with this person” “I feel anger and dislike towards that person” “I feel hurt and upset” “I feel resentful and frustrated” “I feel letdown and betrayed” “I distrust the other person” The emotions we feel in conflict is just as important to address, as are the needs and issues of the conflict. As is discussed in chapter three, the emotions help us discern and identify the conflict phase. When we are in conflict, we begin to question what has happened, what went wrong and who is involved, thus we question our identity in relation to the other person. Most of the unpleasant feelings and emotions are related to our sense of identity and how the issues of the conflict impact us. Identity and Conflict You may be doing something for someone or going along with a situation for quite some time before you discern your emotions about the issue. Confl