Wondering Why You Feel Such Strong Emotions When in Conflict?
Conflict evokes strong emotions. Here are some of the emotions and feelings clients tell me they experience in conflict:
“I don’t feel safe with this person”
“I feel anger and dislike towards that person”
“I feel hurt and upset”
“I feel resentful and frustrated”
“I feel letdown and betrayed”
“I distrust the other person”
The emotions we feel in conflict is just as important to address, as are the needs and issues of the conflict. As is discussed in chapter three, the emotions help us discern and identify the conflict phase.
“I don’t feel safe with this person”
“I feel anger and dislike towards that person”
“I feel hurt and upset”
“I feel resentful and frustrated”
“I feel letdown and betrayed”
“I distrust the other person”
The emotions we feel in conflict is just as important to address, as are the needs and issues of the conflict. As is discussed in chapter three, the emotions help us discern and identify the conflict phase.
When we are in conflict, we begin to question what has happened, what went wrong and who is involved, thus we question our identity in relation to the other person. Most of the unpleasant feelings and emotions are related to our sense of identity and how the issues of the conflict impact us.
Identity and Conflict
You may be doing something for someone or going along with a situation for quite some time before you discern your emotions about the issue. Conflict begins when you acknowledge your dissatisfaction with the way things are, and the emotions and feelings that are spurred by your dissatisfaction.
Most of the interpersonal conflicts we encounter are easily explained and resolved if our emotions, feelings, and sense of identity are not involved. By exploring our emotions, we can separate our interests, needs, and wants to discover and create room to explore mutually satisfying solutions.
Conflict and Identity
When someone we care for or someone who is in a relationship with us acts with their best interest in mind, we may feel slighted, betrayed, or hurt. This causes us to question how the other person views you and the relationship. This sense of wondering about who we are to the other person, I refer to as the Identity Factor of Conflict. Both parties question their roles, in the relationship, and questions about trust and sharing with each other arise during their conversation.
Getting Help with Identity Conflict Questions
Identity questions are intra-personal conflicts that can be rooted in deep seated fears, past hurts, or can even be linked to attachment issues or traumas. These are best addressed in therapy or counselling. Thus, it may be that to resolve some conflicts, one will need personal therapy to make sense, or let go of their hurt or confusion, then coaching to gain clarity and set goals for a solution before they engage in resolving their conflict. Getting help to make sense of intrapersonal conflict is a good thing, as it will help you make better conflict resolution decisions.
To Your Wellness
Joyce
Joyce Odidison is a Conflict Analyst, Coach, and founder of Interpersonal Wellness Services Inc. Joyce created the Wellness Improvement System (WIS) model, which is today, the most comprehensive wellness model on the market. You can contact Joyce to learn about Conflict Resolution for your organization or group. Become a certified Coach with the WIS Coach training program where Joyce teaches and certifies coaches around the globe. Learn more about Joyce Relational Leadership Academy for leaders to improve their relations at work, or work with Joyce at the WISLife Academy to improve your life and relationship wellness. Learn more at: Joyce at: www.interpersonalwellness.com
Identity and Conflict
You may be doing something for someone or going along with a situation for quite some time before you discern your emotions about the issue. Conflict begins when you acknowledge your dissatisfaction with the way things are, and the emotions and feelings that are spurred by your dissatisfaction.
Most of the interpersonal conflicts we encounter are easily explained and resolved if our emotions, feelings, and sense of identity are not involved. By exploring our emotions, we can separate our interests, needs, and wants to discover and create room to explore mutually satisfying solutions.
Conflict and Identity
When someone we care for or someone who is in a relationship with us acts with their best interest in mind, we may feel slighted, betrayed, or hurt. This causes us to question how the other person views you and the relationship. This sense of wondering about who we are to the other person, I refer to as the Identity Factor of Conflict. Both parties question their roles, in the relationship, and questions about trust and sharing with each other arise during their conversation.
Getting Help with Identity Conflict Questions
Identity questions are intra-personal conflicts that can be rooted in deep seated fears, past hurts, or can even be linked to attachment issues or traumas. These are best addressed in therapy or counselling. Thus, it may be that to resolve some conflicts, one will need personal therapy to make sense, or let go of their hurt or confusion, then coaching to gain clarity and set goals for a solution before they engage in resolving their conflict. Getting help to make sense of intrapersonal conflict is a good thing, as it will help you make better conflict resolution decisions.
To Your Wellness
Joyce
Joyce Odidison is a Conflict Analyst, Coach, and founder of Interpersonal Wellness Services Inc. Joyce created the Wellness Improvement System (WIS) model, which is today, the most comprehensive wellness model on the market. You can contact Joyce to learn about Conflict Resolution for your organization or group. Become a certified Coach with the WIS Coach training program where Joyce teaches and certifies coaches around the globe. Learn more about Joyce Relational Leadership Academy for leaders to improve their relations at work, or work with Joyce at the WISLife Academy to improve your life and relationship wellness. Learn more at: Joyce at: www.interpersonalwellness.com
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